The thing about goals is that they can seem like a never-ending hamster wheel.
Many of us who are good at checking off lists of goals know that there is very little satisfaction in it because as soon as one is accomplished, there is another lined up and ready to go. I am a big fan of goals, but I have come to realize that we might have it backwards. We think we will be happy when we accomplish the goal, but we find that "happiness" was our one true goal.
Let me explain…
I was journaling about my short-term goals this morning, so I jotted down five things that I am working on:
1. Eating healthier
2. Getting up earlier
3. Working out more
4. Getting ahead on my blogging
5. Not working on the weekends
Those are very concrete tasks (I had metrics around them, but they're omitted here for simplicity’s sake). Those are actions I need to take; Things I need to do.
When I asked myself “why”, the real story emerged…
Do you see the trend in my "why" answers?
What I really want is to feel CONFIDENT, OPTIMISTIC and RELAXED. My goals are merely a roadmap of how to get there.
So, how does knowing my “why’s” serve me?
I think it is going to help me make more better decisions as I take action on those goals.
For me, being happy is feeling confident, optimistic and relaxed. Actions that support those feelings move me toward happiness and actions that don’t move me further away.
I now feel as though I have decoded my own personal definition of success and fulfillment.
Do you want to do that for yourself? This is all you have to do:
1. List 3-5 goals you are working on.
2. Ask yourself “why?” for each of them.
3. Identify the trends in how you want to feel.
You now have the recipe for your own personal definition of happiness. You can take all the action in the world, but if you don’t experience the feelings you identified, it will be empty for you.
You now have the ability to get off the goal hamster wheel and make true progress toward success and fulfillment in your life!
I hope this serves you!
-Lucila
PS: I am personally going to make a habit of writing those three words as my intentions for the day, every day.
If you want to join me, you can download the free printable TIA Purpose Planner to document your journey to your own version of success and happiness.
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